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We keep living
by Lorenkoran

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We keep living

We keep living for our children

We can’t let them see us die

The universe keeps drifting

The music flows on by

No matter the pain

Not matter the torment

This life is but a moment

Don’t fill it with regret

They live with our consequences

They carry them on their backs

It takes more than a notion

To free themselves of it

Let them live

Free from condemnation

Let them sour

Far above reproach

Let them see us as guiding hands

Not shaping their own destiny

We brought them into this world

We have a responsibility

To let them be who they are

And not what We wanted to be

Not what society has handed down

That lie is someone else’s crown

Don’t pass it on

It’s time for those lies to end

Legacy is in one’s own hand

Not passed down from man to man

Be yourself

Don’t give up

Don’t throw in the towel

Change roads if it’s not workin’

Take another path

Reflection, change, betterment

Are living and not quitting

It’s okay to change your way

Just be present all the same

Be here for you children

For the generations behind you

Extend your hand in service

And wave them high in praise

These children who are watching you

Will never be the same.

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Things have been emotionally difficult lately, and physically. Sometimes the very people whom we have such difficulty with are also the ones who give us the most inspiration.

Last night I was watching Oprah interview and talk with Dr. Shefali on Super Soul Sunday and this evening I watched Birdman starring Michael Keaton. I’m not sure how I feel about that movie. I partly was bored with it but I partly get it too. Anyway, this poem was inspired by both shows. It didn’t exactly go the way I thought, but then again when it comes to poetry one never really knows what the end result will be till one gets there.

 

 

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This poster is being circulated on FaceBook.

If you know anything about me you’ll know I am honest and I don’t say I agree with things I don’t agree with or I don’t understand. So it shouldn’t surprise you that I’m gonna dissect this one. Honestly though, I wonder if the person who put the poster together was an upset parent and wrote it in the heat of the moment. We don’t always think about what we are saying when we are upset. Most, more likely all, of us have done that.

 

Here’s the poster I am writting about.

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I’m gonna dissect this one. Here goes!

“You went soft on discipline.”

I am among the kids that were raised by parents who disciplined the good ol’ fashioned way. Most people my age are divorced and on meds, just sayin’. People raised by strict adults have come out all different ways. Some appreciate the strictness and some see it as the beginning and gateway to the many issues they have had to overcome. What worked for some doesn’t work for all.

“You raised the cost of living so high that both parents are always are work…”

This is one of the big reasons college student age people (and many others) wanted Bernie Sanders to be elected this year. They are not stupid and they are not non-American, they just want to be able to live and breath and be free Americans like they know we are supposed to be. Doesn’t sound like the young Americans are so horrible after all.

“You took God out of Schools.”

This refers to when schools were no longer allowed to enforce children to pray at school. (1963) A free country should never FORCE people to worship or pray. And yes, many children in many schools across the free country of the United States of America were being FORCED to pray Christian prayers at school no matter their religion or beliefs. When they didn’t or refused they were disciplined harshly. THIS IS NOT FREEDOM! We don’t live in a country like North Korea and we should never act like it. After Christian prayer was no longer allowed to be forced upon children in public schools there were a FEW schools and a FEW parents who took this too far. When something new happens, there are always kinks to be ironed out.

“Parent’s were told ‘No you can’t discipline you kids’…”

There have been some places that have said this and caused problems. But NO, this is not a nationwide thing. Most places in the US don’t care how you discipline your kids. Some don’t even care if you abuse them. Some will be happy to abuse them for you.

“You shall reap what you show,…”

They will and already are reaping what the older generation has sown. If this continues we will have only the rich and those in poverty. The older generation has been killing off their middle class which is what has been keeping this country thriving. If it continues it’s the newer generations that will suffer for it, not necessarily the ones who sowed it.

“selfish, disrespectful brats who have no respect for people, property or authority!…”

Wait! I think you got your generations mixed up. It’s the newer generations who are having to pick up after the mess that the older generations have caused. The ones you think were so well disciplined, the ones who resented their parents for punishing them with no explanation. The ones who abused drugs and alcohol and sex producing drug babies who struggle to live past their mental illnesses and become something better than us.

The newer generations are the ones who recognize their parents faults and are doing everything they can to learn better, to do better and not repeat the “sins” of their fathers. Sure they make mistakes, they are, after all, human. What’s really going on here is that the older generations are refusing to truly see, appreciate and respect the younger generations. Just because they don’t do it like we did or how it was done to us doesn’t make them bad or brats or disrespectful. It certainly doesn’t make then un-American.

The younger generations are tasked with fixing the messes the older generations have made. They have the task of keeping the United States of America alive and to make it thrive. What you see as bad in them may actually be what it takes to get the job done.

I also want to point out that every generation started with so called brats and rebellious kids. If you were expecting the younger generations to be perfect people who follow in your footsteps you are delusional and/or a cult leader wanna be. Are really, are you really gonna tell me you were a perfect young person? Maybe you were pretty docile ( I was.). Or maybe your parents were able to explain everything to you and you were compliant cause you understood. If so, do you really think everyone else around you was like you? No! No they weren’t. The kids from your generations were also seen as brats and rebellious and so on. Kids often appear that way. It’s not new to be disrespectful.

It is normal to forget the bad and remember the good and even that changes with time. 

“…Bla bla bla”.

Really! Is that how you see the younger generation. Shame on you! If all you hear is “bla bla bla” then you are not listening and you are the problem.

Picking on them, insisting they be like us, reprimanding them, telling they are worthless, and so on isn’t going to help. They need our support, encouragement and love. If you have something to teach them then explain it, don’t use the ol’, “because I said so” crap.

“Share if you agree…”

I understand that if you shared this you likely see yourself as a good person and a patriot. And likely you are those things. But please take a step back and re-read things before posting, sharing and typing ‘Amen”.

This picture is not patriotic, it is the opposite. It’s spreading lies and hate and encouraging people to disrespect the younger generations. We older generations mean well and we do have a lot to offer. But if we look down on the younger folks and disrespect them who are they going to go to for advice? Would you go to someone who said horrible things about you and doesn’t respect you? Be the patriot you know you are and stop spreading messages of hate.

I love this country. I believe in the older and younger generations. Sure, neither are perfect, but we can improve together. Keep the United States of America great!

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And for the record (and just for fun) …

What and where is America?

America is made up of two continents called North America and South America.

*North America consists of 23 wholly independent countries, which include the United States, Canada, Mexico, Central American countries and Caribbean island countries. 

**Totally there are 12 independent countries and 3 dependent territories in South America. 

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And I add…

I am a patriot. I love the USA. I believe this is still a great nation. One of the reasons I believe it is still great is because we still get to speak our mind openly. We are allowed to believe in whatever we want or feel convicted to believe in legally. I love that this nation is made up of people from all nationalities, walks of life and beliefs. I love that we can criticize our nation legally, and, we can make changes to better it because it’s founded on its people running it. Sure, it’s not perfect and in some areas behind, but in so many areas it’s ahead and in so many ways people here have opportunities they wouldn’t have elsewhere. It’s not perfect, after all humans run it. But I’m not giving up on it and I still love it.

I say “legally” because in some places people are not being treated equally and are not free. Our laws do provide us with protection but there are some places that do not honor the law. 

 

* Exert taken from https://www.reference.com/geography/many-countries-north-america-421e65b0dd8803d8#.

** Exert taken from https://www.countries-ofthe-world.com/countries-of-south-america.html.

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Definition of selfie according to the Urban Dictionary;

Selfie 

A picture taken of yourself that is planned to be uploaded to Facebook, Myspace or any other sort of social networking website. You can usually see the person’s arm holding out the camera in which case you can clearly tell that this person does not have any friends to take pictures of them so they resort to Myspace to find internet friends and post pictures of themselves, taken by themselves. A selfie is usually accompanied by a kissy face or the individual looking in a direction that is not towards the camera.

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If you want a good social media profile picture you likely need a selfie. Not everyone can afford or even want to pay for a professional to take a realtor looking portrait or senior grad pic just to have for their profile page picture. So many of us resort to the all too popular, hold the camera out at arms length and high, snap a pic.

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For some a picture of themselves on social media may be a bad idea. Maybe they are a criminal and on a wanted list, maybe they are being stalked and want to remain hidden, some folks have experienced excessive bullying and find it better to keep the picture non-personal for their own mental health, and so forth. Some parents rather their kids remain social network faceless for their protection.

However, there are also reasons to have a profile pic, such as a selfie, on ones social network profile as well as in the various albums on ones page. A lot of spammers, trolls, con-men and people out for shady things such as net-sex with folks they never met have either no profile pic or questionable ones. They usually do not have many, if any, family pictures and pictures of themselves doing normal everyday things and vacation pics and so on. This is not always a sign of a problem but it is a “heads up, there may be a problem” kind of sign.

So what about the person who takes lots of selfies? What does that say about them?

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I looked this up online and found some articles I plan to read about it, but before I read someone else’s ideas or studies I wanted to share what I came up with.

Sometimes I see negative comments about people who take a lot of selfies. I wonder why the person complaining even cares. What’s it to them? They just seem judgmental and “bitchy” to me. However, as a self psycho-analyzing type person I can’t help but turn this inward and ask myself why I have moments of taking a lot of selfies. What is going on in my brain when I do. I’m pretty sure I am not yet covering it all since I only recently asked myself this question. But off hand, I have come up with three reasons I do it… for now.

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One

I am very honest about my life and I feel the picture of me from when I had a different hair cut and color and look in general isn’t a true representative of how I really look now. So I update. I do like to look my selfie best so in order to get a good pic I have to take a bunch of them and then once I am ready to upload the pic I can’t make up my mind. So, I end up picking one for the little profil pic and uploading the rest in an album.

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I don’t like the idea of not being honest about how I really look. So every now and then I take a full body pic that isn’t angled to make me look thinner and post it. Usually, I am only willing to post one of these, unlike the bunches of the ones that look better.

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When I used to be on the online dating sites I would do the same thing. I didn’t want to meet some guy who was completely shocked about how I really looked. I’d rather meet a guy who had a clue from the get-go. Less awkwardness and less likely to feed the low-self esteem rejection thing. I dated this one guy for a while that I met on POF who told me he found it refreshing that I didn’t hide my neck. I didn’t even know ladies were doing that. Not surprising when I think about it though. I mean, in my “nice” selfies I hide my tummy. Since I have some extra there in the tummy reagon I don’t want to shock anyone when they meet me so I include that one honest pic whether I like the way it looks or not. It’s me, take it or leave it.

Sometimes I find I look good in something or my make up came out really good or unique so I snap a pic just for the record. However, often those pics don’t come out as good as I hoped they would. Sometimes I post them, sometimes I don’t.

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Two

I find I get in a try on various clothes, outfits, costumes and or the sexy look type selfie mood when I need an emotional personal boost.

When I feel down I normally do not want any pictures of myself. I don’t think that’s unusual. But it seems when I go through a difficult body hating episode, or feelings of rejection, depression, etc. I sometimes end it with a selfie photo shoot.

I love doing the sexy kind. They are a great body hating lift. But posting any of them takes some guts. I have my past to overcome since such things were considered sinful. Also as far as posting I am aware that many of my online friends are religious. Not that all the religious ones feel the same, but many do. Then there’s those folks who think sexy type photos mean you want to have sex with anyone and without discretion. While having sex is a great thing, that doesn’t mean that’s what I am aiming to tell you. Then there’s those folks who think I am inviting them to be lewd and suggestive to me on my page. No! Yeah, no, I just want to appreciate me and make myself feel beautiful and have fun with photography art. As far as those who insist on believing otherwise, well, I don’t live for them. Inappropriate comments can be removed.

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Another issue I have had to overcome here is the selflessness I grew up with and doing my best to be. Loveing ones self, pride and such things were set ups for trouple, or so I was taught and believed. So sometimes I outright rebel against that notion. Sometimes being obnoxious and “just doing it” is the only way to break it in ones self. I don’t live for judgmental, religious right, finger pointing people.

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I have overcome a lot, but I have 38 years of that crap I have had to weed through, it doesn’t happen over night. I’m a week away from turing 46, I’ve come dang far, however, I suspect it could take the rest of my life. So cool, I’ll keep at it. And although I hate this, sometimes I back track and then I have to make up for that in order to move forward. But that’s okay, I’m human after all. And as I so often say, I’m not the only one.

For the record, when I say sexy pics I am not talking about nudity. I don’t have a problem with nudity but I understand there are places for those kinds of pics and social media isn’t one of them since children are often on social media sites.

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I don’t have a model or the money to pay some one to model for my photo shoot idea. Sometimes I can get one of my kids to poise for me with their pizza at a restaurant, usually Kyle. Thanks Kyle! Or at a Con in their cosplay outfit. Thanks Hannah and Kara! If I need a silly face I can count on Levi or Kyle. But otherwise, they usually are not interested. Plus, if it’s a sexy type photo shoot I’m not gonna ask my kids to do it. So, if I get an idea and no model or it’s a sexy deal, well, I get to be my own model. In this case, it isn’t usually selfie style but I pull out the good camera and tripod and props and such and snap away till I get the look I had in mind. So it’s not really qualified as a selfie, except it is me so in a way it is.

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I do want to add that some carriers and jobs and so forth will judge you by your social media pictures. Even though it may be unfair, most of us need money to survive, thus those judgmental, social media peeping toms, can be a cause for concern and if you need such a job you do need to be cautious about what kind of selfies you post and share. If this is the case you can always store your controversial selfies on your computer or something and then when you get a different carrier or retire post them. Or … something like that.

Okay, now reading other articles about this.

Hum, this one says, “In a recent Ohio State University study, men who posted more photos of themselves online scored higher in measures of narcissism and psychopathy.” (From http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/01/12/selfies-narcissism-psychopathy_n_6429358.html) But then again, those symptoms are more common in men as it is. So, maybe the reason some men take excessive selfies and why some woman do may be different. Okay, okay, the article goes on to explain, “Narcissism measures inflated self-image (often motivated by underlying insecurity), …” That goes along with my perspective there. The article ends more in line with my ideas after all.Not that it has to, just does.

I found this article to be well written and address the issue quite well – http://mastersinpsychologyguide.com/articles/what-do-selfies-say-about-psychology-you.

There’s plenty more out there to read on this subject. I just don’t have the time. Plus it seems many of the articles are opinions and while that is fine, not everyone is nice about it. It’s okay to believe that selfies are bad, maybe, but it is bad to put selfie-takers down and call them names. I know, haters gonna hate! Lol!

Whatever reason you have for taking selfies, I say, snap away, post away, and be proud of how awesome you look in those pics! You Go You Person You!!! (Unless you’re not a person but you somehow know how to take selfies than I mean you too. 😉 )

This video explaining selfies was super funny to me. –  https://youtu.be/k3_WvmTCA1I

Now for some selfies of myself!

The ones where I have blue bangs are the most recent. 

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