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I try to update this every so often so it’s rather long. To see the latest updated just scroll down.
April 20, 2012
I’m a mother of two girls and two boys. I’d tell their ages but it changes every year. lol
Some of my kids are in the Autism Spectrum and some have ADHD. I have researched a lot about the ASD and am involved in a local support group. My kids have counselors and we are involved in Big Brother Big Sister.
I enjoy and am addicted to photography. I also love to film. I would like to find a way to edit things and then I would film more. I used to love cooking but not so much anymore. When there are people around who like to eat and arent picky then I suddenly enjoy it again. I love art in many forms. Pictures, drawings, acting, dancing, books… I hate to see people waste their talent and I try to encourage folks the bast I can. The arts runs in my family. I don’t think we can help it.
I often talk or write about religion because it was a huge part of my life growing up and into adulthood. All that time (about 38 years) I learned about religions through Christian sources. I was sorry to find out that many of those sources either lied, or spun the truth. I have been researching things from the actual sources themselves and learning in a better light now. I enjoy giving people a chance with out already having my mind made up about how they believe or even think. I chose the wiccan religion as my family religion because I love what it stands for such as, peace, love, forgiveness, open mindedness, non judgmental, caring for all creatures and the earth and so on. Personally I am agnostic. There is just to much to learn to close my self off to one way of thinking. I will be learning forever and I love it that way.
I am adventitious. I keep a mental bucket list. Many of the things I will do one day will have to wait till the kids are grown . I would love to do them with my kids but either I can’t afford to or they aren’t interested.
I wanted all my children to be astronauts but they closed the space program this year here in the US so now I guess they can be whatever they want. lol
I love humor and good stories. Some of the things I want to do and be one day are; A variety talk show host, on a woman’s talk show panel like the View, stand up comedian, making movies, in plays, globe trotter, inspirational speaker, author, astronaut😉, and so on. I will use what ever it is I get involved in to further autism awareness and other causes.
My short term goals is to get a large house with a fenced in yard for my kids and I.
I love the taste of coffee!
Update – 5/10/13
My kids and I are now living in Plover, WI. We wouldn’t have chosen this place but their dad had a “change of heart” and asked that the kids be near him so he could be involved with them. In this past when we tried this it was a disaster, but then again it was my idea. So we gave it another go but this time with no real expectations. So far it is ok sometimes, occasional good and sometimes not so good. Still better then the first try.
We are currently living in a lovely two story low income housing home. It’s actually a very nice place. The downside to it is my daughters have a walk in closet size bedroom. We have no personal back yard so we can’t have a trampoline or a garden. Only one pet per home allowed. And we live near a stinky factory. I know that may sound fine to others and terrible to some but for us it’s been fine for now, just not forever. We really want to live in an RV and travel the US (it’s called full-timing). But the kids dad feels it’s unsafe. This annoys me cause I have done research on it and he hasn’t but such is the man. Still the kids and I want to be able to travel and see friends and family so I am intending to get an RV and a smaller cheaper home so I can afford it and we can actually go places. I don’t want to find my kids all grown up and we only wished we could do things but never did. Of course once we actively start this new adventure I will be blogging and vlogging about it. I really wish we could do a reality show about it, that would be awesome!
Now I just need to figure out what has happened to WordPress. The media button doesn’t do anything which means I can’t download pictures. There’s a lot of other odd things not working on WP as well. I hope it gets resolved soon or I will have to move my blog else where.
The kids and I hoped to move out of state and live near relatives but we needed to save up first which is difficult when one barley makes it to the end of the month financially. Summer is always more financially challenging but I figured it would also help to find a place with lower rent. Normally that is not a huge problem. However, it is when you are searching just before the beginning of the school year in a collage town. I had already given my required two months notice and the company I rented from has a waiting list so once the notice is given, there’s no turning back. Plus my ex made it clear he doesn’t want us to leave the state and does indeed want to be involved with the boys. Either way, we had to find a place locally to live.
My ex had done a deed and lieu on his house in Arkansas that had at one time belonged to both of us so the process affected my credit score basically dumping it in the mud. Peachy! To make matters worse, most places, even the mobile home parks, go by ones credit score, not rental history. My rental history is good, very good, but not helping. Eventually someone gave me the name of a mobile home company that did actually go by ones rental history. I checked out the locations and the small town of Mosinee was the only one close to a big town so I chose that location.
So, here we are now, again, in a small town with what seems to be no opportunities, at least for me anyway. To cheer myself up, I remind myself I really can’t do much anyway cause the kids are still young and the boys go to bed early. May as well take it easy here, not that I have a choice. lol As far as Wisconsen, the folks are very nice and helpful, but they already have their circle of friends. Maybe this is a good opertunity for me to focus on writing. Mostly I am trying my best not to think to far ahead.
The kids are doing good. Hannah is 15 and really trying in school. She is smart and converses well with adults, but her apergers still gets in the way of making friends her age and taking tests, etc. She has come a long way and I believe she’ll get it worked out in time. She deliberately works on improving these things which I think is awesome. Finding out and telling her she has aspergers is one if the best things thing that could have happened. It gave her a tool to work with.
Kara (13) misses her old school which back then she said she hated. But she is making friends regardless. She has joined Hannah in her manga and anime obsession and wants to make costumes and other fashion things.
Levi (11) is doing fine as long as he doesn’t get interrupted or terribly annoyed by his little brother. Both boys are in love with MineCraft. They recently found out there is a MineCraft Con which I believe this year will be in Florida, unless it already happened. Now see! This is the kind of thing I want to be free to take them to. Sigh! As far as Levi’s Autism, most days are good. He is still behind in school but since he is a new student there it’s gonna take a while to work out the kinks.
Kyle (8) is being re-diagnosed. It is looking like he has a mood disorder rather then ADHD after all. But it’s not a sure thing yet. In the mean time I have been advised to feed him small bites of protein every so often, like every two hours or so. Not sugars and carbs but protein. It helps regulate the up and down emotional spikes. The school is on board with this as well. So I’ve been handing him things like walnuts the same way one would hand someone their pills. lol So far so good but this is a very new thing so it will take time to tell. I was also instructed to make sure he has his regular early bed time which I normally do anyway. But when he’s at his dads he usually goes to bed late. I informed Preston of what the psych instructed and I’m sure he will do it as well.
Angel (the cat), used to be shy and timid of everyone including us. Now she’s quite comfortable with just us. When I’m sick she usually sleeps on or near my feet. It’s very helpful cause I normally kick a lot in my sleep when I’m not well and it wakes me up. But with her there I am aware she is and I make myself not kick so I end up getting more sleep. It’s actually really cool. She also makes a point to sleep with the kids when they are not well as well. Angel has recently developed an extreme love for being pet while she eats.
For me, I decided to give POF another try but it mostly made my stomach feel sick. I did end up meeting a nice gentleman who really wasn’t my “type” but would have been nice to have as a friend. Before I could tell him anything he let me know in a polite way that because my kids are young he’s not interested and that was the end of that. Again, the Wisconsin trade mark, they already have enough friends! The hardest part wasn’t the “rejection” but the reality check. That’s what I get for letting hope hook me in the jaw again. I really gotta watch that. I was chatting with a friend and said something I thought came out well so I copied it. Here’s my quote of myself, ” I’m a realist and my brain overrides fantasy, then, it lets some in and I start to see a glimmer of hope which end up to be a dead end and the house that eats me up is called depression.” So, I re-hid my POF account.
The mobile home we moved into was a challenge in it’s self. It was run down, dirty and small. The good part was, I thrive on challenges. So, that kept me busy for a while. The bad part is I cleaned a moldy cupboard with out wearing a mask and got sick. It’s been over two weeks and I’m still fighting it. I did go to the doctor and the meds gave me a temporary break. It’s not just the mold, I think the mold just set it off. It’s also the weather changing from day to day and I usually do get sick when the kids first return to school. The home is coming along fine enough though. Still have some things I don’t quite know where to put and they owe me a storage shed so I have to rent a storage unit, which doesn’t make a lot of sense. There is also still a ton of repairs they need to do. The good part is, that when we leave we will indeed leave this place in a better condition then when we moved in.
Here’s a pic of some of the mold I am still suffering from.
I had a bit of a pick me up the other day at Micheal’s craft store with Kara, Levi and Kyle. After trodding all over the place looking for what ever it was Kara felt she needed, a young man stopped me to ask if the boys were mine. I looked over at them to see what terrible thing they might be doing but they weren’t actually doing anything terrible. I admitted they were indeed mine. He then proceeded to tell me he had never seen such well behaved children. Wow! It’s so nice to hear such positive feedback. It’s like a cool drink of water on a dry throat. When I thought about it later he was right and of course I had to let the boys know how pleased I was with them. The whole time we were there they we were having fun and no one was being a brat.
Well, that’s probably more then just an update. So, I’ll stop here. I need to head off to the laundry mat anyway. Sucks not to have a washer and dryer. I’ll have to figure out how to fix that issue later.
Here’s a pic of my kids and I with my mom and step dad. We were all quite worn out when this was taken but I think we look okay. 9/13
Another better slightly bigger mobile home opened up in the same park. It cost a bit more but also came with a large shed so we took it. It has a lovely home feel that the other one didn’t. The repairs needed were fixed in a reasonable time. Thankfully it had ceiling fans since there is no air conditioning.
I am thankful that Kara gets to go into high school already having friends. Hannah hasn’t made local friends yet but she has made some friends in Wausau which is great. Both boys did much better educational wise this last school year. AS mush as we don’t care for living in a small town I can’t help but be thankful that the school is doing a great job. That’s a pretty big deal.
It’s taken several years to finally get my share of the pension. I finally got my first check last month. Nothing has been said about what they owe me and if they intend to make up for it. But for now I am happy it’s finally come through at all. Defense Finance and Accounting Services (DFAS) is known for it’s insensitivity toward military members and even worse for the spouses and even more worse for ex-spouses. It’s such a shame. My portion of the pension isn’t much but it’s mine and will continue to be mine after the kids are grown. I had a notion it would affect the money we get from the government and i was right. I was informed we would no longer get Food Stamps. This just proves even more my point I make from time to time that the “system” won’t allow you to get rich off of it, or even to catch up. I really could use a break, we are still not making it to the end of the month. On the positive side, some of our money goes to paying off old medical bills and one day those will be paid off and that will free up some of the cash.
I tough this summer was going to be long and boring but it seems i was wrong about that. It does feel long but we’ve had a lot going on.
The girls and I are hoping to start up a fandome club at their high school and possible middle school as well. We haven’t heard back from the Principal yet but there are enough teens interested that it should happen.
Health wise I have been put on several “diets” to help with my IBS. One is the FODMAP diet, gluten free, and lactose free. It was very challenging at first and I believe I lost a few pounds. Being a serviver and being creative sounds good but it has it’s bad points too. Like I’ve mentioned before I am good with challenges so not having much I could eat and not being able to afford things like gluten free products I have had to be creative. I’m afraid I have done all too well. What ever weight I lost is back. I’m not gaining so that good but I would really love to lose weight. Not just because I look better but because I feel so much better and have a lot more energy when I’m not carrying around so many extra pounds. So, eventually I will have to figure that out too. In the mean time I am not starving. lol
Religion wise I find it much simpler to just say I am an atheist. As so often is the case many people read a lot more into that then the dictionary defines. Such is life!
Talking about “such is life” I have a deep irritation toward a rather popular saying I keep hearing. It’s the one, “It is what it is”. Oy! I just hate it! It’s like scratching a chalk board to my ears. I believe I feel this way because I have overcome so many things and rarely find a time where things are actually fixed and not changeable. Not that it isn’t possible, it’s just not all that often. It just seems like an excuse to not make life better.