I thought I’d respond to the 14 things listed in the article above cause it would be fun since the article fit me pretty well. My responses are italicized. The list from the other article are in bold letter and numbered.
(Just click on the purple words at the top to see the original post.)
1. When we say “we’re sorry,” we mean we’re really sorry. If we feel like we’ve hurt your feelings, what you didn’t see is the hours we spent going over every single detail of our fight. Seriously, rest assured knowing that whether you accept our apology or not, this will not soon be forgotten.
This one hits home! When I was a kid, somewhere under the age of nine, my mom had a serious passion filled talk with my sister and I about the word, “sorry”. She made it very clear to us that when someone said sorry what they were really saying was, “I’m sorry until next time”. In other words, she believed when people said sorry they were not genuine and just being patronizing. Thus, I lived with a fear of saying sorry to anyone, I was afraid they would take it wrong. However, when I said or thought the word sorry, I meant it from the bottom of my heart and had spent time going over what it meant to be sorry. A genuine sorry can be a very important thing to say at times and not something to be afraid of saying. Once I reprogrammed my self after the age of thirty eight I stopped caring wither people believed my sorry or not. If they didn’t, it was their problem. I meant my words and that was that.
2. We’re not insecure control freaks, we just think. A lot. I mean you don’t have to call us back right away when you’re out, but just know that our mind is playing out a bunch of horrible scenarios in which you’ve cheated. Or died. That’s right, if we reach your voicemail, we can’t help but consider that you might not be alive.
Yes! This one can be a real pain the butt!
3. Our critical thinking skills are pretty on point. Seriously, we have mastered the art of interpreting what people really mean by what they say.
4.But our friends don’t seem to appreciate our analytical ninja skills. They end up saying “you are so over-thinking this I can’t even,” when we proudly tell them that we’ve figured out what something really meant.
Reading Malcolm Gladwell books doesn’t help this one any. But I still enjoy it!
5. Sleep is probably the most difficult aspect of our lives. Laying silently in the dark without any distraction inevitably makes us sink into our racing thoughts.
Over time my self re-programming has helped a lot with this one along with a really good therapist.
6.God forbid someone unfollows us on Instagram or unfriends us on Facebook. We won’t rest until we figure out who it was and why.
Yep! I so want to know, “WHYYYYYY?” lol Sometimes people get dropped on FaceBook so that makes it even crazier. I just wish people who feel the need to remove me would send me a note telling me why cause I just really want to know.
7. We delete texts, hesitate over writing emails and Facebook messages, delete and re-write tweets. All because we could and should have said something other than what we did. It takes us forever to write an important message. Okay, basically any message.
Yes, this is true. But, some of my re-writing and editing is because of my bad spelling and bad typing skills. I post, edit, post, edit, post, edit… For some reasons I can see my mistakes better after it’s posted then when it’s in edit mode.
8.When we go out we can be the life of the party – if the party is authentic and exciting (and has enough alcohol), we can live in the moment. Until the hangover. The next morning we are left in fear of what we could have said to that one person we’d rather die than act like an idiot in front of.
This keeps me from getting “too drunk” or really actually drunk at all. I have kids and not only is it important to me to be of sound mind in order to care for them, I also don’t care to act op in front of them due to too much alcohol even though I will act up just fine perfectly sober. But at least I have control over my so called “acting up” when I’m sober.
9.Of course, any pain in our body leads to us imagining the worst case scenario. We need someone to talk us off the ledge, and tell us they’ve experienced a pain similar to the one we’re describing.
Now that I’ve been diagnosed with IBS and acid reflux I usually just blame those things. But yeah, I’ve been concerned before and still sometimes am.
10. We can’t let things go easily. We’re convinced that if we run over the details of a few more times, it will somehow change the outcome and we will uncover some new understanding of the situation.
I do like to go over all the detail so I can do better next time. People say, “don’t live in the past” and in some ways I agree. But if it’s for self improvement and not wallowing then I say, go over it and figure out what you can.
11. We send a lot of screenshots of stuff…and evocative details. We need second opinions.
I am often just curious about what others think. I used to need other people opinions but not so much any more. It really depends on the subject.
12. We actually enjoy a break from our heads. If someone takes us somewhere stimulating enough that we won’t have to be mind-numbingly introspective for once, we’ll love them forever. Well, you know.
Maybe that’s why I love to go to the movies. When I get really frustrated in my head and I’m driving and I need to shut my thinking off I turn the music up super loud. It actually feels really good. I normally don’t keep it loud for very long. Once the presser is gone I turn it back down or off.
13. What did they mean by “I’ll see you soon?” What does “soon” mean? Like soon soon? Or “soon”? We like when someone makes our lives a little less complicated and tells us straight up what they mean. I mean, we’ll probably spin it to mean something more, anyways, but it’s still nice.
Sometimes I mull over this and wonder and sometimes I know I don’t know so I make up a funny answer and laugh privately to myself. It’s my way of dealing with the unknown and cheering myself up. Humor is healthy!
14. If we meet someone that makes us live in the moment, we’ll hang on to them for life. Or as long as we possibly can.
Maybe that’s why I found it difficult to hate that womanizer guy who used me then threw me away when his next “trick” came along. I think it had been way to long since I had “lived in the moment”. After being horribly heart broken and then getting over it I saw him mostly for who he was but still missed the “ups” he gave me. Later I was able to actually see him as the fool he is. But I still don’t hate him, I just think he’s pathetic.